Porn Harms: Law and Science Reflect Natural Truth

In an overwhelming (82-8) bipartisan vote, the Virginia House of Delegates approved a measure earlier this month recognizing that pornography leads to societal and individual harms, joining Utah and South Dakota as states that are recognizing pornography’s adverse effects. While religious groups have long recognized the destructive impact of pornography, and the sciences have begun documenting this phenomena increasingly over the past several years, it is significant that another legislature is seeing the need to codify this truth. Read

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Trump and The Definition of Sex

As the Trump transition team rolls out names for cabinet posts, the most anticipated name is that of his Supreme Court nominee. The composition of the Court could prove decisive in several cases to be considered this term, one of which involves a Commonwealth of Virginia school board and a student suffering from gender dysphoria. At issue in the case is the Department of Education’s (DOE) definition of the word “sex.” It used to be such a simple word… Read

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Toxic Masculinity And A Confusion Of Terms

“Universities across the nation are taking steps to actively purge male students of what’s been labeled ‘toxic masculinity’.” One small college with a “commitment to a diverse and inclusive learning environment,” has freshman students who “identify as male” watch a film about masculinity entitled “The Mask You Live In” which warns students that the notion of masculinity comes with harmful side effects. Is masculinity truly toxic, or is something else at play here? Read

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The Need To Belong: Nothing New, But A Crisis Nonetheless

A client of mine, an articulate, attractive, divorced woman in her 30s with a traumatic family background, was discussing in therapy the common dearth of true friendships among her peers. Few, it seems, have any real relationships. Rather, they have “situationships.” The Urban Dictionary says a situationship “is a relationship that has no label on it. Its like a relationship, but more of a situation.” What it really is, is lonely. And we were not meant to be alone. Read

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Redefining “Sex” in the Transgender Debate

On August 23, doctors, hospitals and five states filed a lawsuit against the government, challenging a new regulation implementing Obama’s Affordable Care Act (Obamacare). The new rule requires physicians who accept federal funds to perform transgender surgeries on children and adults, even if doing so conflicts with a physician’s professional medical judgement or belief that such a procedure would be harmful, dangerous or not in the best interests of a patient’s health. Read

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Back To School Help – Mom, Dad: What’s Trans________?

“One of my friends from school last year says she wants to be called by a different name, a boy’s name. What should I do?”
“There’s a new kid at school. I can’t figure out if ‘he’ is a boy or a girl. ‘He’ says ‘I’m pansexual and gender fluid.’ What’s that?”
As summer ends and children of all ages are returning to school, some (despite the media attention, thankfully very few) may be confronted with these or similar situations. How should you feel as a parent if you are so approached? What should you say or do? Read

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Should Sperm Donation Be Anonymous?

A couple made up of two women chose a ‘qualified,’ though anonymous, semen donor, profiled as being an eloquent, mature, healthy, intelligent man, to be the father of their child. Almost seven years later, they found that the donor was schizophrenic, left university before graduating and had just been accused of robbery. Furthermore, his picture had been modified to remove a large mole from his face. This donor is the biological father of at least three dozen children… Read

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An Update on Transgenderism: Confusion, Yet Glimmers of Hope

A recent film, The Danish Girl, portrays the journey of a married man who becomes obsessed with the idea of himself as a woman, emotionally abandons his devoted wife and pursues a sex-change operation. The movie is critiqued well by Walt Heyer, who travelled that journey himself, and discovered to his great pain that changing his sex surgically did not bring peace, contentment nor happiness. He writes to save others from such false hope. Read

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Dating And Commitment In The 21st Century

Per the Daily Telegraph “the lines of what constitutes a relationship are now completely blurred…. Young people today are brilliantly liberated because they have so much freedom, but also incredibly oppressed because that means they have to find their own rules and they’re confused.” Online dating? “[I]t’s like ordering…food, but you’re ordering a person.” Can anything good come from this? Read

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Adoption: Is Earlier Better?

Prospective adoptive parents are getting involved in the lives of the birth mother and their hoped-for child earlier and earlier. Proponents note the positive benefits in terms of facilitating a more comfortable and connected open-adoption experience. Yet, others raise concerns about what can happen if the birth mother changes her mind. While there are no easy answers when dealing with such a powerful and poignant experience, one principle which might be applied is the preferential option for the most vulnerable, in this case, the baby. Read

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